I’ve written before about my life journey but for now I want to focus on the growth that occurs when we commit to a spiritually connected and led life. Some people find a way to be in peace with their day jobs, and other people have no choice but to leave. Either way, it’s a journey, and it’s a good one!
First, some context around how I’m designed to be in this incarnation, through the lens of Astrology & Human Design.
I’m a Virgo Sun, which puts me in the role of serving others (happily), but also programs me with a very natural motivation to be the best I can be every day. Virgo likes tangible progress. You could think of a seedling reaching for the sun with its inborn pursuit of growth, reaching for the perfection of Source. My Mercury (how I think) is also in Virgo. ♍︎ The Virgin – representing purity of essence, not of hymen!
I have a Cancer Moon, which as a cardinal sign, programs me to like initiating things. Cancers make great entrepreneurs. And of course – caring, nurturing, protective, highly intuitive, and psychic. ♋︎ The Mother.
And I am a Sagittarius Rising, with another 3 planets in Sag in my first house. So I’m programmed to be a very strong seeker of higher knowledge. When you see my confidence & eagerness, that’s my Sag rising. It is bold, bright, fiery. ♐︎ The Philosopher. The Adventurer.
And having incarnated as a Projector this time round makes me extremely focused on the other. I am dying to know you. We’re going on a date? You better know your birth time or be willing to find out! Show me all your parts, the messier, the deeper, the better. Being a Projector programs me to see and know people like no other type can. This is because of the design of our auras. Focused, absorbing, penetrating – right into the core of who you are. I am here to guide whoever invites me to do so. This is how I contribute to the world. It suits my energy reserves, which is a fair bit less than what’s available to 80% of the population. I invest back into myself via learning and study. The depth of mastery in my particular craft determines what people pay to work with me.
So as we can see on the surface without going deeper into each aspect/planet/channel etc, I am here to serve others in a deeply caring and nurturing way. To see and guide them through my own unique lens, while embodying the essence of curiosity and eagerness for life. All of the knowledge & experience I gather up gets transmitted back to my people and my community. It is my personal main goal to continue shedding all the stories and all the crap that have stopped me from being myself, knowing myself, and showing up as my true self purely, clearly, simply.
Now with all that laid out, you have a sense of who I am, how I operate, and what I’m here for.
Read on to learn the most impactful lessons I’ve learned since my awakening.
In some sort of chronological order:
- Humans are not alone in this universe. We were intentionally designed by our star family as an experiment in consciousness. We contain DNA strands from many other-dimensional beings – that’s why we’re so interesting!!
- I used to *really hope* that I was special in some way. That I had something unique to share with this world and I’d finally get the recognition I’d always craved. I’ve learned that – “Yes gurl, you are special. Very special. And honestly truly, so is everyone else on this planet. Everyone is so wonderfully unique!” And this is not just a nice platitude. I know it to be true, in the very depths of my being.
- We all connect to Spirit a little differently. I believe we’re all psychic in our own ways – we just have to start down that path to see how our clairs show up for us. I had never heard of how I intuit things now. It all just dropped in slowly over time.
- TRUST. Trust. Trust. Trusting that things are unfolding as they need to for your development. Trust in the information that was coming through for me. And good discernment of what others were saying.
- Finding your own truth & inner authority. There’s a lot of people’s opinions flying around on earth & in the spiritual community. It can feel a little disorienting for an intense newly awaked seeker. Take everything with a grain of salt – run it through your discernment systems – and see what feels true and right for you. And if you’re not sure, that’s ok! Your truths will shine through in perfect time.
- Quantum Consciousness. There is some really cool shit that we can do through ‘making it so’ in the mind. I’m talking about very real, transformative quantum journeys to meet your home planet, throwing a violet flame next to you to transmute what you need to burn off, psychic surgery, and more. This space is limitless.
- Detachment. Learning – over many many months – to feel emotions I’d previously labeled as “bad”, and just let them exist in me. When there’s work to do with them, I do it. If I just need to distract myself until it passes, I do that. I don’t buy into the painful habitual stories my mind attaches to certain feelings.
- THE MIND. Oh, the mind. Human Design says that if we’re making decisions with our mind, we’re in trouble. It’s about getting into the body and letting our bodies guide us. Our thoughts can cause a lot of trouble… Learning not to attach to my thoughts has been HUGE.
- Learning about Buddhism & way of the Tao has helped smooth me out. Specifically, this awareness has helped me come to terms with understanding that a) feelings are perfectly natural like the changes in weather, and b) the monkey mind is the greatest source of suffering on this planet. It’s not about having to be happy all the time, it’s just about allowing all parts of ourselves to be and exist in each moment. Regular meditation is key – and it should be fun, according to Alan Watts! Which I agree with. But, I like to sit and not do a lot. Because I’m a Projector 😉
- The focus on striving/achieving/desiring is a natural consequence of life on earth as we know it now, but I believe it brings more suffering. It took me a while to sit with this and see how I could marry this up with my strong inner motivations to be better every day. The main points I’ve found that allow the mutual existence of ‘not striving to achieve’ & ‘still working towards something that is meaningful’ are, 1. releasing our attachment to outcomes, and 2. remaining as rooted as we can in each now moment. There is great joy & peace in the richness and opportunity found in the present moment.
- Money – love – anything that drives fear in you, are the best teachers. They offer rich opportunities for growth, like all challenging times. I’m realising that it’s a choice to stay in appreciation and eagerness, vs fear and feeling downtrodden.
- CHOICE – I don’t think we have as much choice as we’ve been led to believe. In Human Design when you’re operating correctly, there is no choice. And what a relief is, amiright? Choices can be strong anxiety-inducers. So when we find our minds going crazy with wild stories and thoughts – we have a choice to keep playing down that rabbit hole, or stop the illusioned stream.
- We are multi-dimensional souls in physical form, having this human earthly experience. It is fleeting and filled with love and beauty, if we choose to see life this way. Everything I’ve listed above has been the filler to this main learning. Life on earth is a real hologram, or hologame, but it’s not the most real thing about us. Our soul is our truest nature, and when we start to rise out of the pain and fear that is so strongly encouraged in the 3D/matrix, we can see that life is beauty & love. We can learn to handle our painful emotions with care. We can process our shame & fear with compassion. We can open our hearts to others. We can take risks. We can love ourselves. We can feel safe in our bodies & love others freely. There are no limits. Life, and love, is limitless. Life is abundance. We already have everything we could ever need. It’s in us, it’s around us, it’s us. We are it. YOU are it! So the lesson, is that everything I thought was real was only a sliver of the picture. A piece of the pie. I’m now very intentional energetically with what I consume, who I consume, and what I think. I see life on earth now as a beautiful hologame that I get to play in – not as a shackling & entrapping existence that feels heavy & burdened.
So I’ve stated my case as to why it’s worth doing this work, digging in, and never giving up on yourself.
I’d love to hear where are you at on your journey now? Are you just starting out, seeking answers at every turn like me, or are you further along and in a comfortable groove now? What has been your biggest lesson?
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In love & beauty!
Nicola 🌹 xx
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